Romance And Getting Rid Of All Your Thoughtless Ideas
Growing up, I learned that the way to a woman’s heart was an expensive dinner, roses and chocolates. I don’t know why, perhaps it was Hollywood, perhaps it was my old fashioned parents. Having grown up, I’ve learned that this, like most pre-conceived notions about love, is a fallacy.
Once, many many moons ago, one man was the first to use the “romantic formula” described above. It worked so well for him that he told all his friends. Due to the time in history and newness of the nice dinner and flowers concept, this system of romance was brilliant for them too. All their dates were so impressed they fell in love, the couples got married had children and developed the whole valentine’s day and romantic products industry.
If you get one thing out of this article, I hope its the realisation that since the first dinner, roses and chocolates date, the concept has lost its originality. Today, its a bit of a cop out, its just another date without thought. Dinner out isn’t even special anymore, its something we do every week for no occasion, just to get out of the house.
And flowers are the gift to suit all occasions. We give them to say sorry, at funerals, at weddings, at births, to say goodbye, to say welcome home. They are just common. Its little wonder I had such little dating success when employing the “dinner and flowers” strategies of romance.
So what does romance mean today then. In my mind, it means exactly the same thing today, as it did to the man above who invented the dinner and flowers date.
Romance is thought. It is as simple as that. Real romance is getting into the head of your partner, working out the thing or things that will really appeal to them and then organising for them to have it. It does not need to be expensive, or classy, or spic, or trendy, they are all preconceived ideas. All it has to be, is desirable for your date.
For example, a drive to the beach for fish and chips with a candle and a picnic rug could make your date way happier than a gourmet feast at an expensive restaurant. This assumes of course you have done your work and know she likes fish, driving and sand between her toes.
So shut your mind to your preconceived ideas about romance and start listening to your woman. It should all start there. What you do on a date is not nearly as important as to how you came up with the idea. All the experience needs to do to be romantic, is show you lady that you are thoughtful and focused on her needs. Its that simple.