Should I Be Getting Over a Relationship or Getting Back Together?
Many people who have just been through a breakup with their ex, wonder if it is really time to move on or if perhaps they could contact the person they’ve just broken up with to see if there’s any chance of rekindling this relationship.
Relationships end with a breakup, but not all breakups end relationship. It is important to remember this because while a breakup will many times end a relationship forever, they don’t always. So, the problem is, was this a relationship worth pursuing again?
How Do I Know If It Is Over Forever?
It is often happens that one of the partners who has experienced a breakup goes through the following days sad and wishing the whole thing had never occurred. It often happens at the same time, the other partner is going around also wishing the whole thing had never happened. Such a couple may be better served by contacting one another than by trying to adjust to a permanent breakup.
If you have just broken up with someone and you now have regrets, it may be worth finding out if the ex-partner also has regrets. The difficult thing is, you must contact him or her to find out if he or she really does have regrets as well.
Getting in Touch
Even though it is very difficult and nerve-racking at best, finding out if you’re ex-partner also has regrets requires you contact this person directly. Hiding behind e-mails or having someone spy on this person as a means to getting his or her true feelings will inevitably backfire.
The phone is the best way to go. Simply phone your ex-partner and be honest. Say that you have felt very sad since the breakup and you regret doing it. Tell him or her you regret saying the things you’ve said and you wonder if he or she has any such similar feelings.
The Breakup ” Is It a Real One?
After making such contact with the ex-partner, one of two things will happen. He or she will literally melt and be very open to getting back together or there is something making him or her incompatible with you. If the latter happens, you’ll find in the long run the permanent breakup was the better way to go.
If you find contacting your ex results in re-igniting the relationship, you’ll probably see this relationship will get even stronger. Maybe you’ll find that the two of you will end up spending the rest of your lives together. However, often a person will have a few breakups before the right partner is found. So, if contacting the person you just broke up with bears no fruit, you’ll know it is time to go on looking for the partner who will be compatible with you forever.
In some cases, a breakup is a way for two people to realize they just can’t live without one another. On the next go around this couple may find they are truly in love and will never make the mistake of breaking up again. However, if both the ex-partners are too shy to try to contact the other one, they will never know if their one true love has gone to waste.